Are you ready to Change The Pattern?
If someone you love is living with addiction, you don't have to figure this out alone.
A self-paced course and guided workbook that gives you β the parent, partner, sibling, or friend β real tools to help without losing yourself in the process.
Get the free workbook βFree. No cost, no obligation β just the first three sections of the Recovery Road Map, yours to keep.
Michael Smeltzer Founder and CEO
Why I built thisβ¦
I'm Michael. Before this was a course, it was my life. I've spent more than a decade in recovery myself, and more than a decade working inside behavioral healthcare β which means I've sat on both sides of this: the person struggling, and the people around them trying everything they could think of to help. While working as an executive at addiction and alcoholism treatment centers, so often I would see family members and loved ones not understanding the process, doing things that further complicate their loved one's ability to get the help they need, and engaging in behaviors that, while well-intentioned, were often counterproductive.
Here's what I learned, and what this course is built on: you cannot do recovery for them. But you are not powerless. The way you communicate, the boundaries you hold, the way you take care of yourself - all of it shapes the world your loved one is trying to recover inside of. That's where your power actually is. Change the Pattern is the course I wish every family had been handed on day one, built alongside six addiction experts so you're not getting one opinion - you're getting the range of wisdom it actually takes.
Built alongside six experts
Decades of frontline experience, in one course.
Clinicians, counselors, and people who've walked it β each teaching the part they know best.
Becky Babb
Treatment Executive and Admissions Expert
John Lee
Best Selling Author
Briana Sefcik
Trauma and Family Therapist
Alicia Scott
Addiction Expert, Mother In Recovery
Corbin Bigheart
Behavioral Healthcare Executive
Ryan Soave
Clinical Thought Leader
Eight modules. One plan that's actually yours.
By the end, you won't have a folder of notes β you'll have a finished Recovery Road Map: a personalized plan for your loved one and for you, built one piece at a time.
Understanding Addiction
Get an honest, clear picture of what you're actually dealing with β so you stop fighting the wrong battle.
The Family Disease & Doing Your Own Work
Name your own goals, separate from your loved one's recovery, and see why your healing changes the whole system.
Communication, Anger & Rage
Walk away with a communication plan you can actually use β including words for the hardest conversations.
Boundaries vs. Enabling
Write three to five real boundaries, each with a consequence you can hold β the difference between a boundary and a wish.
Treatment Options & Levels of Care
Understand the treatment paths that fit your loved one, so you know what to ask for when the moment comes.
Having the Conversation: Intervening with Love
Build your conversation script β and a backup plan for if they say no.
Relapse, Regression & Staying the Course
Create your relapse response plan now, with a clear head, so panic doesn't make the decision later.
Building a Sustainable Recovery Road Map
Assemble the whole plan and design a life worth living β for them, and for you.
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Start with one honest step
Your first step is free.
Download the free Family Snapshot β the first three sections of the Recovery Road Map. It's a guided workbook that helps you take an honest look at where things stand and begin focusing on you. No course, no commitment. Just a place to begin.
Get the free workbook βFree. Tell us where to send it and it's yours to keep.
Before you start
Questions people ask
Is this for me if my loved one won't admit they have a problem?+
Yes β in fact, that's exactly who it's for. This course isn't about getting them to do anything. It's about what you can do, starting today, whether or not they're ready. You don't need their permission to begin.
Does my loved one have to take the course too?+
No. The entire course is built for you, the supporter. Nothing here requires their participation. Many families find that the changes you make are what eventually shifts things β but that's a result, not a requirement.
Does this work for any kind of addiction?+
The tools here β communication, boundaries, understanding the disease, planning for relapse β apply across alcohol, drugs, and other substances. The experts speak to addiction broadly, not one specific substance.
How long does it take?+
It's self-paced. Most people move through it over a few weeks, a module at a time, but you can go faster or slower. You have lifetime access, so there's no clock.
What if I start and can't finish it?+
That's completely normal, and it's okay. Because you keep access for life, you can step away and come back whenever you have the capacity. The course will be here.
Is this therapy or treatment?+
No. This is education and a set of practical tools for family members β it doesn't replace therapy or treatment, and it's not a substitute for professional care for your loved one. Think of it as the guidance and structure most families are never given.
Will this fix my loved one?+
I won't promise you that, because no honest person can. What this course does is change what's in your control β how you respond, what you allow, how you care for yourself β which is the most powerful influence you actually have.
I'm exhausted. Is this going to be one more overwhelming thing?+
It's designed for people who are already running on empty. Short video lessons, one clear action at a time, and a workbook that does the organizing for you. You don't have to be at your best to do this.
What exactly do I get?+
Lifetime access to all eight modules, every expert lesson, and the full nine-section Recovery Road Map workbook you build as you go.
How much is it?+
The course is $129 for lifetime access. Right now it's available at the launch price of $99.
What if it's not right for me?+
There's a 30-day money-back guarantee. If you go through it and it isn't what you needed, email us within 30 days and we'll refund you. No hoops.
Is my information private?+
Yes. Your email is used to send you the workbook and course updates, nothing more, and the workbook itself is yours alone β nobody else sees what you write in it.
Your next step
You've read this far for a reason.
If something in you is ready to stop waiting and start doing the part that's yours, this is where it begins β lifetime access to all eight modules, every expert, and the full Recovery Road Map.
Start the course today β$99 launch price Β· Lifetime access Β· 30-day money-back guarantee